I, Me and Myself

Friday, May 20, 2005

why men only??????

So I watched the movie Hitch the other day and it was quite an experience. I connected to the movie with the very first dialogue of Will Smith when he says “ No woman wakes up everyday and says..God, I hope I’m not swept off my feet today” .!! The truth hit me and made me realise that woman even today expect the man to do everything. From the initial ‘asking them out’ to paying for the dates to proposing them for marriage… it’s a preconceived notion dating back to god –alone- knows- which- century ,that according to me totally overrated.
Infact I have many friends today who think that women cant ask men out! I don’t see their point… aren’t guys as nervous as girls to profess love or infatuation or whatever it is that they feel towards a special girl and wont it affect their bank balance if they spent all their savings on the girl.
I do understand and think that it is completely romantic for a guy to ask a girl out and insist on paying for the dates but then that is only chivalry that cant go on for ever. Going Dutch is in style. When women fought for equal rights in all fields I am hoping she even thought of coughing up for the dates.
I have a friend k.mala whose boyfriend insisted on sharing the bills for many of their outings and even asked her to pay for the fuel to drop her home. Maybe the fuel went a bit too far but at the end of the day it’s about getting treated equally in a relationship.
Now, now don’t get all judgmental. I am not a feminist writing this article to say that women have to do everything that men do. I totally believe the opening lines of Hitch. I too wake up every morning waiting for my prince in shining Armour to show up and whisk me away on his white horse. I’m not trying to tell you that fairy tales don’t come true becoz I truly believe that they do, when you believe in them. All I’m trying to state here is why wait for a man to start the fairytale when you could do it yourself. Go on, ask him out. My friend did this. The guy unfortunately wasn’t available but at least she did her part and I applaud that. What’s wrong in telling how you feel whether you are a boy or a girl? If u don’t want to, then its fine. But u shouldn’t wait for him to take all the steps while you stand stationery. Maybe it’s more common in the western society but here women almost consider it taboo. Many of my friends are genuinely interested in guys that have lasted more than a year and it’s sad to see them wait for something to happen from their side. At least if you go and tell hem how you feel, you are doing something about it. It may not be the smartest of plans becoz he just might reject you but then at least you can move on. At least you can sleep without any regrets and ten years down the line; you can live happily with whom ever you are with rather than waste ur time imagining what your life would have been like if u had told “him” and if he had agreed.
I guess that’s life biggest mystery, for two people to never know that they always loved each other.
ciao

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