I, Me and Myself

Friday, May 20, 2005

reality... bites!!!!

To-day, is gonna be the day
that their gonna throw it back to you
by -now you should have
somehow realized what you got to do
I don’t believe that anybody feels the way I do
about you now….
…. And all the roads we have to walk are winding
and all the lights that lead us there, are blinding
there are many things that I would like to say to you
but I don’t know how….

_ Oasis, Wonder Wall

So how difficult is it really to be honest???? To say exactly what you feel like saying? Just today I was complaining to kutty about something and she directly shut me up by telling me that u need balls to be honest and say what is on your mind to the who ever… eventually you will be the only one who is talking and every one is going to throw that back to you.
. That got me thinking, do we really need courage not to lie?, I thought that it was usually the other way around. Why can’t I tell that I don’t like a person because …well…because for whatever reason I have (or don’t have). Why should I lie to a friend about someone because the concerned person and this friend are on very good terms…hmmmm…Needless to say this will lead me to maybe loose a friend but isn’t that better than just living a lie.
Well looks like I took up a complicated topic for my first article but it has always fascinated me that I proclaim to hate hypocrisy and sometimes find myself the biggest of the lot around. Hypocrisy is something every one indulges in. Claiming to have no problem to people being gay when you go about gleefully spreading rumors about a classmate being a lesbian in a derogatory manner to put her down doesn’t speak very highly of a person. Why cant you just go tell her that you don’t like “being greeted” that way? What’s stopping you? I can’t think of even one person who doesn’t practice hypocrisy except for one good friend. She talks her mind and avoids people she dislikes for various reasons. I don’t have to say she does not have too many friends but at the end of the day she has the complete respect of the few true ones left. I tried doing that once with a colleague (if I may say so) and he has hated me and my bluntness from that day on but I know he respects what I say more than the others coz I don’t suck up.
I guess it’s the basic principle of life… as you grow older; you lie more so that you can lead a life avoiding confrontation and also the possibility of the knowing what would have happened if you had said that and how different your life would be now because of that. Then after sometime, you will realize that your whole life has been a farce and try to be honest and suddenly have people accusing you of not being considerate to other people’s feelings. Everyone speaks highly of honesty and lowly of the people who actually dare to follow its path.
But to preach is not as easy to practice and I just hope that I can say my mind whenever I want and live to see the next day. Coz at the end of the day honesty doesn’t seem to pay too much in reality in comparison to sucking up …or does it?
I the words of Joe Fox (Tom Hanks in You’ve Got Mail) “..But then I must warn you that when you finally have the pleasure of saying the thing you’ve been meaning to say; the moment you say it.., remorse inevitability follows”. Maybe some places and sometimes you just have to shut up. Like now
ciao

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